Wednesday, September 29, 2010

It is time to re-ignite your love life with alternative dating methods

The tried and true methods that people have been using to get dates are starting to slowly fade away into the background. This is simply down to the fact that these methods simply cannot keep up with the busy lifestyles that a lot of us have. With the world shrinking smaller and smaller due to technology, singles should also have a world of options when it comes to their love lives.

There are many reasons that traditional dating methods are slowly being taken over by alternative dating methods like online dating websites. Traditional ways are pretty much restrictive and to those of us who are busy, we just don’t have the time to socialise as often as we would like. This means our social circles and dating scenes are limited to what we can offer ourselves and once we meet someone we like – then what? Phone calls are restricted to after office hours and if you are a jet-setting executive, there is simply no time.

Love should not be about juggling timetables and waiting for opportunities when both people can be free – it should be about communication, one that is constant and reciprocal. Alternative dating websites cuts through all the supposed red tape that exists in traditional dating methods. Why side step through disappointments, hunting down the person that matches your personality when you have a system that closely finds the people that you would more than likely connect with. Interests are matched, activities closely paired together. I mean, we enter into a conversation with someone for a good half an hour only to discover that you share nothing in common with them and they like to do things that set your teeth on edge. Time is a commodity and a luxury that we do not have.

Every wasted opportunity cuts into the precious time that life has given us to live and love - anyone should be given a fair and accurate shot at finding their life partner. It is about being happy, with yourself and with someone that you can talk to. Love letters have been replaced with online memos, poetry with the prose of emails. You can send pictures, tag albums, record your voice and even videos of yourself. Get comfortable with them before you get really comfortable with them – this is the logic that a lot of these dating sites are trying to sell to their clients – and it works. Information is the key ingredient to a successful relationship or even a successful date. We don’t live in romantic novels where we get swept of our feet or fall head over heels in love in picturesque settings with a bottle of red wine always on hand. This is the real world - a world that is now modern and brimming with technology. Alternative dating methods have leveraged on these technologies to give a bit of spark back int o the super busy, the super shy or even to those who have given up trying to find someone in the real world. Virtual dating can just as easily translate into real, tangible emotions in time.

Wednesday, September 22, 2010

How To Save A Relationship - 3 Super Tips

So you have noticed that things are not going so well. You no longer look forward to meeting your partner and the days that you spend with each other seem to be few and far between and all you can think about is when you want to get back home and sleep. Sex is a distant memory between the two of you and you struggle to find things to talk about.

These are some of the warning signs that the relationship is like a white dwarf heading towards a black hole – heading towards oblivion and it is up to you to save this relationship before things get out of hand you both find yourselves on the road to separate lives. What happened? Things were going so well before and suddenly that magic train just got derailed and you are left stranded on an island of mutual resentment. It is time to talk about things.

Open up, communicate. It is common in these stages of the relationship that the partners just avoid the subject completely, letting it fester and grow into an endemic so out of control that it just slices the connection the both of you had together. Sit down and find a quiet place and talk about things. Find out what the problem is and what is bothering one another. Try to find resolutions through dialogue. Communication here is key. For example, the woman in the relationship could have been feeling that her man did not find her attractive enough. That could fester into a debilitating problem of avoidance of physical contact and an exaggerated jealous streak that could end up hurting both parties. If they talked about it, they could find ways to resolve the issue, or find out the real reasons behind their distance and work together to resolve it. This is what you need to do. Talk and talk some more. Find mutual grounds of understanding. It is also time to bring in more excitement into your lives.

Surely by now your relationship has settled into a routine and you realise that boredom is taking over. Get spicy and get excited. Plan for outings and shared experiences like playing games together or going to the beach for a swim. Remind one another why you guys loved each other and have fun together, it is one of the best ways to save a relationship. And the last one discussed here today is one of the hardest things to do – spend some time away from each other. Take a month off. A cooling off period can be just the sort of thing you need to reflect on your lives, one another and perhaps start to miss each other again, rekindling the old emotions that were always there. This are some of the super tips that you can use to save your relationship, but remember, everyone is different so think about what the problems are before you approach them. Always use love as a tool to save a relationship, look into each others eyes and remind one another of the love that you once had.

Thursday, September 16, 2010

Important online dating etiquette mistakes

I have heard a lot of horror stories about online dating from people who are actively within these circles and listening to them, I thought to myself – I had to pen this down somewhere as an article so that others may learn from the mistakes of a few. Dating online doesn’t mean you are unfettered of basic manners that apply to the real world – you are still on the civil leash, if you get my meaning. Some people, however, do not realise this and perform some of the more foolish things on the internet that brand them as ‘unpopular’ or even ‘weird’.

Now I know that you do not want to fall into these categories – being ostracized from a dating community that you paid subscription for is not a pleasant experience, after all you are there to find a date and possibly a life partner – not experience dejection from the seat of your computer. One of the best horror stories from the side of women is that they are appalled by men who ask them questions which have been obviously written on the profile. This means that they have not been reading the profile and based all their judgement on looks. This is akin to not looking into a woman’s eyes the first time you see her, if you get my drift. Read, read and read some more. A woman loves knowing that someone has paid attention to their profile and bothered to actually learn more about her.

Quoting from a book she read or commenting about her skills in a sport or hobby will get any man a step further into her world. Well, don’t think that I forgot about the women either – they are as prone to making online etiquette mistakes just as men; and one shining example is women asking men how much their annual salary - in the first or second conversation. Unless you are their accountant or their mothers, you don’t ask that question. Men immediately think that you are measuring them by their wallet size and are sizing them up for a house and some kids – all before you guys even had a proper phone conversation. These are some mistakes that men and women have been making in the real world, and nothing, not even the digital world will stop them from spilling over. Other common mistakes include being too pushy, or sending too many messages and emails to another person, which makes people border on insanity.

Making etiquette mistakes is now even more easy with the whole Internet Dating 2.0 experience, where some sites allow for people to adopt avatars and meet their dates in virtual space or simulated locations for a romantic ‘getaway’. I have caught wind of some snarky singles dressing their avatars in insensitive attire (Gestapo uniforms come to mind) or appearing naked. While some might think its funny, it might be enough to get them banned and off the list, which means they have to start all over again. Just stick to the careful guns and be yourself – while at the same time feel your date out and find the right time to be truly comfortable with them. With that in mind, you can succeed in any situation and find the one for you.

Friday, September 10, 2010

Top 3 Relationship Problem Advice For Patching Up

If you think u are facing a problem in your relationship and need advice to patch up before the problem before it gets out of hand, then you have come to the right place.

There seems to be no more intimacy in the relationship. Well this is a problem that a lot of couples are facing everyday and there are plenty of ways to fix this. The problem is that you and your partner has probably fallen into a routine with one another and there is a lack of excitement anymore. You barely look forward to meeting one another and when you do, there seems to be a rush over things like dinner, a rush just to go home. Even when you live with one another, you sleep next to each other but it seems so far away. It is time to inject a little more excitement into your relationship. Do stuff together, get involved in events and organise games. Go for make overs with one another – you would be surprised at the effect on your sex life once you view your partner in a new, more stunning light.

What about when there seems to be no more love, no more emotion? Having no intimacy is one thing, but when the relationship seems dead, that is a very big problem. It could mean the beginning of the end for you and your partner and you would want to avoid that at all costs. With this problem, you need to identify it early, before it blows up in your face and becomes something too large for you to handle with your partner. It is time to communicate, and not to argue, because there is major, great and mammoth difference between couples who argue and those who talk. Arguing is ruled by emotion and by illogicality and communication is ruled by the desire to iron things out and discover the root of problems. It is time to communicate and if you need to get a relationship counsellor in, then by all means. Do this before things get out of hand and both of you end up in separate, single lives.

Another common relationship problem that can do with some addressing and some advice is of course the issue about money, and this problem pervades many relationships where one person is earning more money than the other. There are many ways to approach this problem. One, is to decide that each earns his own and keeps his and her own money in separate bank accounts, but has an agreement that certain mutual expenses will be shared. Another way is to keep a joint bank account where a little of each partner’s pay gets deposited each month. Also, never keep a religious track of each other’s spending. Both of you are lovers, not accountants.

These are some of the top 3 relationship problems and the advice you can use for patching up. As with any relationship, there are may more dynamics and many more reasons, but these are just some general guidelines and advice you might find useful.

Saturday, September 4, 2010

5 Great Love Tactics To Make Your Girl Swoon

This article will discuss 5 great love tactics to make your girl swoon and to keep the flame burning hotter and higher. With these simple approaches to love, you will not only be able to swoon your woman, but keep her for life.

It is the little things that count sometimes, and if you buy her a tiny present or write her something nice once in a while, these are some sure fire ways to make her swoon for you. Women are all about the tiny details and they love the idea of being on their man’s mind every minute of the day. While this may be a bit idealist in thinking, do not make the mistake of just assuming that everything is fine. After all, buying her a small tee shirt or something she likes to eat once in a while is really a very inexpensive way to get her to fall more and more in love with you. Even if she does not do the same thing for you, you should do it anyway. You will be more appreciated that way and in the end, you might actually guilt her to do something special for you.

Make something for her. Resist the temptation of simply going to a shop and buying something. This activates something very primal in her when she knows that you went to the trouble to either cook something, compile a video tape or even paint something for her. The thought behind these gifts are more priceless than even the most previous jewels to women and this could also be the solution when you are caught with a broken bank account on valentines day or even her birthday.

Talk to her and ask about her day. Women love to talk, we all should know that by now and they love to feel like they are the centre of your existence and you are genuinely concerned about their day. Don’t just grunt in front of the television, timing your grunts to when her stories stop while one hand is on the remote and one hand is on a beer. Actually listen to her.

Tell her how beautiful she looks everyday. Do not over do it because like even the most potent drug, its effects will wear off once you use it too much. Surprise her with praises and compliments and text her when you are at work of how much you like to see her. Get graphic sometimes. Women love to feel wanted.

Last but not least, make her laugh and make yourself a source of laughter and happiness. The way to a woman’s heart is sometimes through her lungs and the harder she laughs the more she will treasure you. Don’t be a jester but be a joker sometimes and be a serious lover another. Confuse her with different personalities and she wont know what to expect, putting her on the edge of her seat in the relationship.