Thursday, January 27, 2011

5 Tips To Fix Your Girl's Broken Heart

Relationships are very volatile. They sometimes can be great and lead to lives of bliss and happiness and they can also go very wrong for some others, which more often than not, will lead to a broken heart. Like that song by Nazareth, love can sometimes hurt, but it doesn’t always have to be that way. There ways to mend a broken heart, especially when it is your girlfriend who is suffering inside. The road to recovery can sometimes be long and hard, but you can play an active part in fixing this; you can fix your girl’s broken heart.

The path to healing will often come from forgiving one another, so the best way is to look at the past and bury the past. Accept the fact that neither of you are perfect and start talking to one another again. Sometimes starting from scratch is one of the best ways. It is a clean slate, a new chapter in your lives and the best thing about it is that you both know that the potential for there to be love and happiness is already there – after all, you guys had already experienced it before. This is a great method of healing that works every time.

Think about taking some time apart from one another. We all know that this period of time can be crazy. There will be jealous fits, moments of denial. Someone will get angry and say the same thing. Emotions need time to be cooled off, so take some time to yourself and let her be in her own space for a while. After a while, the anger will fade and the good memories will return. She might even forget why she was so angry in the first place and her pain might be replaced with a need to see you again.

Maybe it is your fault. Evaluate who you are as a person and think about what led to this. If you have to improve, if you have to step up, then show her and be sincere about it. Sincerity shows like a ray of light form a darkened room and when she sees you are being sincere, the pain will slowly go away.

Be there for her. Sometimes women do not and cannot say the words that will let you back in her life, so you have to watch out for the signs. After all, she is hurt and since you were the object of it, it is up to you to take the initiative sometimes. But remember, do not force yourself on her, it has to be natural.

Last but certainly not least, work at it. If you truly love her, no matter what has happened, then you should work at it. Women can be emotionally strong, but they can also be unable to cope with pain, just like men. Work at it. You will be rejected the first few times, but effort will certainly pay dividends. Soon, you will be holding her in your arms, and a smile will replace that broken heart.

Saturday, January 22, 2011

Dating direct 101 � What a woman really wants

This article goes out to the guys out there who sometimes just have no idea what a woman wants. Well take it from a woman – there are many things we want but in actual fact, we are not as demanding as you take us to be. In fact, what we want are pretty basic rules and principles that we apply to every guy we go on a date with. Read some more if you boys want to know some dating direct tips to impress any girl that you meet. First of all, we really, really respect when a man is courteous. Women are not walking feminists all the time. Yes, we respect equality but in the end of the day, we are women who also want to be pampered.

Giving up a seat, opening the door for us or something as simple as pulling out our chair will get you plenty of brownie points when you are on a date with a woman. We don’t expect you to bend yourself backward treating us like a princess, but a little care and a touch of gentlemanliness is something many women, including me, find extremely charming to behold. I think one of the most important things that a woman really wants is a guy to be himself on the first date. We know that you are trying to impress but going to far and acting like someone that you are not really spoils it for us. It tells us that you are not sincere and have to put on an act for us to like. It also seems like you have a low opinion of women who only respond to one type of guy. Not all of us are into the James Bond, Brad Pitt, debonair and charming gentlemen stereotype.

There are so many types of personalities out there that can be just as appealing. It also makes us think twice about asking you out on a second date because then we will be just expecting for the act to drop of and the real you to come out – something that might not be a pleasant experience for any woman to contemplate. We like sincerity. We can sense it in the way you smile, the way you talk and how you conduct yourself on a date. It just shines right through and sometimes even basic honesty like that can be extremely attractive to us. Also, don’t be so guarded about your life. As you might know already, we women love to talk not because we like to gossip but because we thrive on information and sometimes we use what you are all about to try and see whether we can fit ourselves in the picture of your life, your family and your friends.

Be as open as you can be with a woman on the first date but that also comes with limits. With these simple steps to follow, you just might be able get to that second, third and who knows – you might find someone you like. Dating direct, dating right – now you know what a woman really wants.

Friday, January 14, 2011

Subliminal Seduction 101 - Attracting Women Using The Right Words

The art of picking up a girl is really more of a technical science in the sense that it requires a lot of research and a lot of knowledge into the behavioural science of a woman. One thing that most men will admit readily is that they have no idea how a woman thinks and they blame this on their emotional and physiological make up and how different they are from men. Well, this is true to some extents, but research has shown that how a woman thinks is quite similar to how men think. It is because men over think the situation and think that women will respond to a certain set way are one of the methods that keeps derailing their seduction efforts.

Men have to understand that women respond in a certain way but their initial reactions are quite similar to how men would react. If a man were to see a woman staring at them all night long, they would be quite uncomfortable, especially if the woman was just average looking or if they were not attractive at all. Now place this logic in the shoes of a woman, who undoubtly because of their ability to choose, has somewhat higher standards when it comes to visual stimulation. Because also of the fact that they get attention most of the time from men, they are often guarded and need to be broken down before they can be seduced. One of the proven ways to do this is by the use of subliminal techniques like the use of words. Women respond to words a lot more then men and the often dissect what people say more than the rougher gender.

The techniques to get you to seduce a woman is often a mixture of riveted attention, careful phrases, body language and the use of compliments. Compliments are the one powerful tool that men either use too much of or none at all. If you do not compliment a woman, she will start to feel a little insecure about her appearance and then quickly change to slight indignation as she realises that you are only interested in one thing. Compliment her apparel, how she dresses, her voice and her hair – these are the proven hot spots where women like to be complemented on because they place a lot of effort in these areas.

Also, try and keep your voice to a deep baritone, meaning keep it low. Not only is using the right words important it is also important to keep a soft approach when talking to a girl. If she leans over to hear you better, it is always a good thing as it means that she is actually interested in what you are saying. You know you are using the right combination of words when she initiates physical contact with you – a sure sign that she is warming up to you. The power of words when seducing a woman is rightly one of the most important things you need to have at your disposal.

Monday, January 10, 2011

Who loves you?

The face of dating has changed forever. A long time ago, it was the traditional way of courting that ruled the middle ages and soon the industrial age gave way to more modern, contemporary methods that started to rule the laws of attraction.

Recently, speed dating, dating services and companies who specialise in big ‘singles’ get together have made dating and the arena of love into a commodity. Now the internet has stepped in and has made getting that someone that will love you as easy as 1, 2, 3.

There are thousands and thousands of online adult dating sites that have captured the imaginations of hundreds of thousands of singles all over the world, and this is because of the simple fact that it works. For the doubting Thomas’s all over the world, I can straight ; matter of fact tell you that there are a large population of couples that have found love online.

It started a long time ago with rudimentary incarnations of online chats that were perpetuated by giants like Microsoft. Then IRC stepped in and gave everyone with a social disorder or a large case of shyness the chance to chat with the same bravado of a billionaire playboy but without the limos and mansions. The internet is a great way to find someone you love, someone you can be with, someone that can fill the gap in your life for many good reasons.

One of them is the fact that its platform allows for people to speak to personalities and not to mere looks. The one endemic that has afflicted the dating scene the world over is that people are way too picky when it comes to getting the first step to a dinner or even a simple lunch date. While it sounds like a cliché, personalities are the ones that matter because looks only can go such a long way.

You don’t marry the looks, you marry the character and the personality and the only way to find out if you are a match in so many emotional levels is to speak to that person without the foresight to critique every mole, every dimple and every wrinkle. I am not saying that looks are important but apply some common sense and be realistic when choosing someone to go on a first date with.

Also, the internet dating scene is the turnkey that allows for many of busy individuals who have no time to be players of the offline dating scene to actually find a life partner. Who loves you? Well give yourself the chance to find out with adult dating services that pepper the internet. Just be careful when it comes to matters of the heart and go through the safe, legitimate and established channels.

There are many great ways for anyone to find the person of their dreams – or at least someone they can wake up to for the rest of their lives through the humble online dating service, you just need to pluck up your courage and your mouse – and the rest is just magic.

Monday, January 3, 2011

Going online is the latest dating buzz � Make sure you go in prepared

I think online dating is slightly trickier than normal dating, not so much that it is a harder experience but that it requires a different set of rules and an altered approach to normal dating. What you need to think about is that these people are online because they either have no time to date in the real world or they much prefer to take their time.

It is not all about speed when it comes to online dating, some times it is about patience and if you follow these simple rules, you will be able to get an edge on the latest dating buzz to hit the internet. First and foremost, you must understand the science behind the use of the profile. Always use the most recent of your pictures and include several full body shots. People are more likely to contact you or answer your message if they know they can match the picture with the person they are talking to. I have heard many people wonder why they can never get a reply when they join a dating sight and a quick look at their profiles will reveal why.

Number one, never ever use a single photo on your profile, this turns people off and they think that you are trying to hide something. A single good picture usually translates to people thinking that you either are not the person you are pretending to be, or you are using an old picture. That is the popular psychology when it comes to profiles – and this is one of the worst ways you can employ. I know there is always that one picture you are proud of, it may hep you look like a superstar, but it isn’t going to help you get dates. Show the human side of you and post as many pictures as you can. This will create a safety zone in people who view your profile and will believe that you are sincere in finding a date.

Also, remember to fill out your profile with as much detail as possible. Remember, your profile is talking and walking for you. You are ot there to smile, shake their hands or even judge them by their body language. Your profile is your dating ‘pitch’ and you have to put in some time and effort into it. A shoddy profile with very little details will not only turn people away from trying to contact you, but leave with even ore lonely nights on the horizon. Details, details and more details. That is the by word of internet dating. If you need to clinch that meeting and get that phone number, you have to be as up front and as informative as possible. Don’t allow yourself to skimp on details and make sure you dedicate a part of your week to update your profile. This is how you go in prepared and once these foundations are prepared, the rest will be smooth sailing for anyone.